This week’s Femme Feature is the AMAZINGG Bonnie King (@bonniemicheleking). Bonnie is one of our badass clients and a food and body freedom coach (YESSS!). She is fiercely passionate about helping women free themselves from the unrealistic beauty standards that have been forced upon us. Bonnie is driven by her passion to help people, to empower women, and to change the conversation about what it means to be healthy or confident or feel happy. She loves the magic of writing, feeling the sand between her toes and connecting deeply with her body.
She inspires us daily with how vulnerable and how open she is with her story. And we are SOO excited to share this babes story with you, meet Bonnie!
Tell us about yourself! Where are you from? What do you do? What do you LOVE?
I was born and raised in the Pacific Northwest, the Puget Sound area of Washington State to be exact, in a small town called port orchard which is just a ferry ride across the pond from downtown Seattle. I moved around a lot after high school but once I started popping out them little nuggets I settled in Port Orchard to be close to family.
I am a mother, an entrepreneur; specifically a food and body freedom Coach and content creator by day. A pizza connoisseur and a semi-professional wine taster by night.
I am so passionate about learning ultimately because we end up teaching what our biggest downfall was at some point once we’ve learned. And as we teach we learn & as we learn we teach which I believe makes us a reflection of our students or clients which gives such amazing human connection, another thing I am very passionate about, connection. And I know that does have to do with my work but for me, the separation isn’t large because I am my work and my work is me and I love it that way. Although with that being said that does mean I do have to be very aware of my self-care & the things that keep me full, bring me love, joy, freedom & light my soul on fire...
Number 1, my babies!! I have 2, my son he’s 6 1/2 & my daughter she’s almost 2, they are my world & there is nothing like watching them in their joy. My family because I don’t know what I’d do without them, their love and support. Also, I love writing, it’s such a magical experience. The feeling of the sand in between my toes and the sound of the ocean brings me a kind of peace that’s unexplainable & I love connecting with my body which is all-encompassing.
What is Food Freedom? How did you get started as a Food Freedom coach?
Food freedom to me is truly living around food without obsession. Without the need to diet, count, measure or weigh your food. To eliminate shame, guilt, stress, restriction & deprivation around food. And be able to truly live intuitively, listening to your body and what she wants while feeling that confidence and peace about it.
I got started as a food freedom Coach after I had gone through my own food freedom journey. By the time I was 12 I was on my first diet, I had anorexia by the time I was 14 and while attempting to heal that eating disorder I picked up a new one which was intense binge restrict cycles. My eating disorders controlled 16 years of my life and I was done. I was tired of feeling so much anxiety around food, tired of binge eating until I puked, tired of food controlling so much of my time and mind. So I opted for sanity and finally got help in my late 20s. I spent a year in intensive therapy with an emphasis on eating disorders and worked hard and deep to pull myself out from under disordered eating and I will never go back.
I’ve been living in recovery for about 3 years now and about 6 months ago I decided to switch from being a wellness coach (I went to school for exercise science & nutrition) to a food freedom Coach to teach other women how to free themselves from the food obsession & feel themselves in their bodies again. To show them it’s possible & they’re not alone if they are struggling too.
What is the biggest lesson that your journey with self-love has taught you?
I personally prefer the term self-acceptance over self-love because self-love seems too unrealistic in my opinion. Which also ties into my biggest lesson.
Let me elaborate. There are pieces of me that I will never love, like my stretch marks, I accept them, they exist and that’s ok but I will never have a love for them. And for someone who has spent years hating their body & relying on outside validation of their appearance to feel love or confidence to hear the phrase just have self-love, just love your body & yourself, that shit seems unbelievably uncomfortable and unrealistic and you just wanna say “fu*k off Karen I don’t know how to have self-love.”
The point is, self-acceptance seems attainable. It’s realistic. You can accept every piece of you and be ok with it, know it exists and know you don’t have to love it and that’s ok. As well as the pieces of you that you can love you own that shit and run with that power because those are the things that will keep you pushing forward on a low day and in my opinion that is true love, having full acceptance of every piece that makes you, you.
What advice do you have for any babes out there that are struggling with self-love/self-confidence?
Stop letting fear keep you small. Stop letting outside validation tell you what you are worthy of. Know you are not alone and you will be ok. Take it one small step at a time and for god's sake ask for help babe! Don’t waste your life letting your struggles control you. You can have the freedom and be confident of in the skin you are in now. I know that may seem impossible right now but all you have to do is take the first step.
What is your favorite self-care ritual?
Ohhhh gimme allllll the self-care! (Because really self-care is how you take your power back amiriiight?!) I love whatever gets me grounded and feeling myself in my body again.
Some of my favorites for self-care practices are journaling, meditation, reading, walks in nature (I love feeling my bare feet on the earth, especially sand or sea water fuuuhh yaaassss), deep breathing, salt baths, stretching/yoga, listening to good music and of course dance parties. You can never have enough dance parties.
What do you do to stay grounded when life gets crazy? Any favorite routines or rituals?
I tap into my self-care favs of course. But also any time I can feel myself getting extra funky or like I am going to fall into old habits or self-limiting beliefs I know to immediately change my physical state. I go take a walk or do 10 squats or dance party. This is the quickest way to alter your mindset and pull yourself out the funk and back into your body and soul.
What is your favorite quote?
Urmahgawwwd this is so hard! I am a quote junkie. Hello, my name is Bonnie and I’m a positive affirmation, mantra-oholic. (“Hi Bonnie!”)
I’ll say 2 of my fav simple ones.
- Faith over fear
- Surrender, to give up personal control for personal peace
You can find Bonnie and all her MAGIC on Instagram at @bonniemicheleking.
The GirlTribe Crew
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